Overcoming Evil With Good:
How God Led Us To Create HisVictory.com

"I don't know what to do anymore. We're still living under the same roof, but there's no love, no affection, no intimacy in our marriage. Sometimes it's like we're only brother and sister. Our kids see it. They see how cold and distant we are with each other. They feel the tension. He's even been talking divorce and says he doesn't have any feelings for me any more. Ever since he got involved with those porn sites on the internet, our lives have become a total disaster!"

How sad are those words. Even more tragic is the pain in the eyes of this dear lady. We hear similar stories almost every day in our counseling work with Christian couples going through their own dark valleys in
their marriages.

Over the past few years it's almost epidemic, the number of individuals chained in bondage, marriages and families being torn apart and ruined by Satan's "web" of seduction and lust on the internet. Recent statistics reveal the tragic pattern: $57 billion spent each year on porn worldwide, currently there are an estimated 4.2 million porn sites on the web, over 372 million porn pages available, 68 million search engine requests daily for porn (25% of total requests), 1.5 billion porn downloads per month (35% of total internet downloads),. And is it any wonder so many Christian men struggle with this evil when the average age of the first internet porn exposure is 11 years old? A recent survey showed that 53% of Promise Keepers admitted viewing pornography in the last week, and 47% of Christian men admitted that porn on the net was a major problem in their personal lives (Internet Filter Review, 2005). Satan my be no good, but he is good at one thing — his job. And his weapon of choice these days, it would seem, is the web (interesting word, isn't it?).

One of our patients whose marriage was in shambles due to lust and bondage to porn on the web, recently told me this in his session: "I have overcome my addiction to porno and now my wife can trust me again." "How did you manage to do this?" I asked him with much amazement. "Well, my wife got rid of my computer," he proudly replied. He was serious! It was everything I could do to avoid laughing. The problem wasn't his computer. The problem was his heart, which is "…deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" (Jer. 17:9)—God's diagnosis of man's heart. Another version says our heart is "incurably sick." Getting rid of his computer was about as effective as an alcoholic dumping a bottle of booze down the drain. The number of bars and liquor stores awaiting his return are endless.

A few weeks later this same man was fired from his job. Why? He was caught, on camera, masturbating to porn on his work computer.

It was only then that this man, on the verge of losing everything of value to him, was willing to get the help he needed. And the help he received was a transformation and purification of the heart. How was this accomplished? The computer was brought back into the home, the wife had the only password to make it work, and together they were guided through strategic biblical resources on the internet (along with other resources) to overcome Satan's stronghold.

God says through Paul in Romans 12:21, "Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good." And that is precisely what the Lord did, using the very internet under the guiding eye of the Holy Spirit, to overthrow Satan's work and set this captive free. Not only was his marriage restored, but he grew to hate what he had once loved—pornography and lust—and developed a real appreciation of what "the fear of the Lord" really means. He now ministers to other men caught in this web of destruction, leading them to the way of escape the Lord so graciously provided to him. In her own ministry, his wife brings hope, encouragement  and strength to women brokenhearted by their husband's sin.

How thrilling it was seeing our patients set free from bondage, actually living out 2 Peter 1:4, having "escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust..." How grateful we were seeing God take what Satan meant for evil and using it for His glory.

But at the same time, how frustrating it was only being able to help those who could come to our offices, knowing that Satan had access to thousands through the web, ruining their personal lives and destroying Christian families around the world. A bitter-sweet state of affairs—we were glad, but we were also mad.

Then, while meditating on Romans 12:21, the Lord graciously gave us the vision for HisVictory.com. In one place on the web, all the biblical resources one would need to get the victory over self, sin and Satan. Then, after almost three years in research, editing and preparation, HisVictory.com was launched, to the glory of God, and to fulfill His promise: "…the Lord hath anointed Me to preach good tidings unto the meek; He hath sent Me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound" (Isaiah 61:1).

With this "Banquet of Biblical Blessings" we could set before the body of Christ everything they need to be able to stand triumphant. Using godly web sites we could now reach out to thousands, not only those we see face to face. We could also offer to pastors and teachers and missionaries all the biblical tools they would need to feed the flock of God entrusted to their care. To God be the glory!

That's how HisVictory.com came about. But as we researched the vast resources of God-pleasing web sites, we expanded out objective beyond the more serious issues just described. The version you now see on your screen includes hundreds of wonderful sites to enhance and enrich your relationship with the Lord Jesus. And the more you know Him, the more you will trust Him; the more you trust Him, the more you will experience His victory, and will live life more abundantly.

So, enjoy the Banquet! And as you draw near to Him, He will draw near to you — and there is no greater blessing in all of life then that.

Dr. Charles H. Browning
Foundation for Applied Biblical Counseling

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